I am pretty
sure this will be the most difficult one for me to write about… praying for our
husbands’ sexuality… the need for sexual intimacy. Yikes! I know I am a
grown-up… I realize this is a normal part of married life, but the young girl
inside me still giggles a little at the idea of writing about it! Sorry, I will
put on my “big girl panties” now… so to speak!
When God
created man & woman could he have made us anymore different? Yet He created
us with such intricate detail… like two pieces of a puzzle that don’t even look
like they belong in the same puzzle box, but they end up fitting so well
together! When I think about that I am so amazed!
“You alone created my inner being. You
knitted me together inside my mother. I will give thanks to You because
I have been so amazingly and miraculously made. Your works are
miraculous, and my soul is fully aware of this.” Psalms 139:13-14
There are so many temptations out there for
our husbands. A man use to have to go to a store to buy pornography in a brown
wrapper, but now there is easy access at a computer or smart phone! There is so
much good that has & does come from the internet, but Satan also uses it
big-time to tear families apart!
We know that sexual intimacy in marriage is
a good thing… it was created by God for procreation & enjoyment. Let’s face
it ladies, it is a battle we need to be fighting with prayer to protect our
husbands from Satan’s attacks in this area. No, our husbands are not weak men
that can’t fight for themselves, but we need to stand up to these immoral traps
& pray protection over them.
Ok, now here comes the not so easy part… as
the woman in this relationship you hold the key to sexual intimacy in the
marriage. As women, most of us see sexual intimacy as the fulfillment of
attention, affection & adoration from their man. But most men see sexual
intimacy with his wife as what will stir attention, affection & adoration. I
am pretty sure most ladies want to be adored by their man, while most men want
to be desired by their woman! Could we be anymore opposite?!
If we are praying for our husbands from head
to toe, that means we cannot skip over the sexual part of him… that is a big
part to most men! Neglecting to pray for this area for your husband can negate
every other area you have been praying for. If someone needed clothing or food
would you ignore that? (James 2:15-16) Well, sexual intimacy is just as
important… when you know this is a need or desire of your husband, you must
play a part in fulfilling that. None of this is written to make you feel
condemned in any way… I am guilty of putting other priorities ahead of my
husband a lot… & I don’t have children to add to that “to do” list!
The “to-do list”… please, please, please don’t
make your husband feel like you are giving him what he wants so you can check
it off your list! He wants you to desire this time with him… the physical ending
might be the same for him, but he will know if your heart was not in it.
I heard a really good teaching on sexual
intimacy in marriage… she talked of how when we are intimate with our husbands
it is a form of worship. It is freeing yourself of any shame you may have
carried from your past & letting those intimate times be a way to honor God
& each other at the same time! I know for myself, shame was a big thing for
me when it came to sexual intimacy with my husband. But after learning that
Satan wanted to keep me thinking of sex as “dirty,” I was able to find freedom
from thoughts or actions of my past. Remember, the enemy wants nothing more
than to keep married couples from finding complete fulfillment with each other
& God.
“Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great
price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be
undefiled (honored);” Hebrews 13:4
So as you pray for your husband’s sexuality,
pray for him to have strength to resist temptation, to find fulfillment in your
marriage relationship, & that you both would find renewed passion in your
intimacy… leaving him feel desired by you.
It is out of love for your husband, ladies…
that is where you will find enjoyment & enthusiasm!
“His mouth is sweet in every way. Everything
about him is desirable! This is my beloved, and this is my friend,”
Song of Songs 5:16
Rejoicing in Truth!
Carin
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